What’s the point of keeping contact with the ones who don’t really know you and staying away from the ones who really love you?

Many people always check their facebook all the time in order to keep contact or updated with their “friends’” statuses, pictures, videos and so on. But they don’t really visit their friends and relatives much in person, for example, their grandma and grandpa. I think it is fine with keeping checking facebook all the time. But how can somebody keep herself/himself updated with her facebook friends but not grapping the chance of visiting her relatives in time?

People always think they still have time to visit the ones who are there all the time. Last Thursday, I lost my beloved grandma. Getting to know it in the morning, I called my siblings immediately to ask them to go to the mainland in order to see her for my really last time and attend her funeral. I really believed that it is kind of respect to attend an elder’s funeral no matter you love her/him or not. Obviously, someone doesn’t really think this way. My cousin, who always said in her facebook how worried she was about grandma, didn’t come back to attend the funeral. How ridiculous it was! It makes me rethink about the use of facebook and people’s relationship in facebook.

Facebook keeps people in touch with some of their friends, but not all the friends in their friend list. I think most of you would just take a look at those who are your real friends or the ones you interact with most. Would you suddenly greet someone you don’t know much and you just add them because of the shown common friend list? Instead of wasting time to keep updated with the one who don’t know much, it would definitely be better to visit some of your relatives in person in time! Don’t think that they would always be here for you! Treasure your time if you can still visit them and be good to them!

In order to know how many groups I have and how many friends I actually interact with, I use an application called touchgraph. Here is my touchgraph!

Here is a list showing the colours of my groups.

Red: my first secondary school – PPVIC

Blue: my second secondary school – SLCSS

Green: BAEP

Purple: AATI

Orange: Wing Chun friends

Most of the friends I interact with the most are the connectors between different groups. I found one common thing – they connect at least two or more than two groups.